Bullying is the repetitive, intentional hurting of one person or group by another person or group, where the relationship involves an imbalance of power. It can happen face to face or online.

(Anti-Bullying Alliance)

Bullying is both behaviour and impact; what someone does and the impact it has on the other person's capacity to feel in control of themselves. We call this their sense of 'agency'. Bullying takes place in the context of relationships. It is behaviour that can make people feel hurt, threatened, frightened and left out and it can happen face to face and online.

(Respect Me 2015)

Bullying can affect people in different ways.  Our response should focus on identifying how someone feels and helping them to cope with and respond to those feelings. Young people may act out of character when they are being bullied and changes in behaviour can be signals that something is wrong. We need to focus on what has happened and the impact it had.

Bullying behaviour can harm people physically or emotionally and, although the actual behaviour might not be repeated, the threat that it might can be sustained over time, typically by actions: looks, messages, confrontations, physical interventions, or the fear of these. 

This can lead to prejudice and discriminatory language or behaviour, including racism, sexism, homophobia, biphobia or transphobia.

'Prejudice-based bullying is when bullying behaviour is motivated by prejudice based on an individual's actual or perceived identity; it can be based on characteristics unique to a child or young person's identity or circumstance.'

Respect for All 2017

It doesn't matter what colour hair you have; what trainers you are wearing; how you speak; how you walk; how you talk - it is not your fault if you get bullied.  We are all different in some way and that's what makes us amazing. 

No matter who you are, bullying makes you feel rubbish and it is okay to be upset about it.  The important thing is that you tell someone about it.

If you feel you can, talk to a teacher you trust or a family member.  If you don't want to do that you can always call Childline 0800 11 11 or visit Childline (opens new window)

Talk to someone in school.  In the first instance, this would be your Pupil Support Teacher/House Head.  This will be recorded by the school, investigated and reviewed in line with our Anti-bullying action plan, detailed on page 10.

 If you don't want to tell someone in the first instance, complete an online anti-bullying self-referral form: Anti Bullying Self-Referral Form

Write down what happened, when it happened, and who was involved.  If the bullying is online, keep the evidence - save or copy any photos, videos, texts, e-mails or posts.

 It can be tempting if you are being bullied to take revenge - for example to send a horrible message back to someone; to try and embarrass and hurt the other person, or to fight back.  This is not a good idea - you might end up getting in trouble or get yourself even more hurt. 

Think about other ways you can respond to bullying. For example, practice saying 'I don't like it when you say that/do that - Stop.'  Think about other people who can help you if you are being bullied - this could be other classmates, or a teacher.

Only spend time with people who make you feel good about yourself.  If someone constantly puts you down they are not a real friend/ boyfriend/ girlfriend and not worth your time.

Be kind to yourself, and do things that make you feel good, relax and make new friends.  You might make music; write lyrics; draw cartoons; dance; act or join a sports club.  This is your life so make sure it's the best life possible - don't let anyone bring you down.

No single sign will indicate for certain that your child is being bullied, but watch out for:

      belongings getting 'lost' or damaged

      physical injuries, such as unexplained bruises

      being afraid to go to school, being mysteriously 'ill' each morning, or skipping school

      not doing as well at school

      asking for, or stealing, money (to give to whoever's bullying them)

      being nervous, losing confidence, or becoming distressed and withdrawn

      problems with eating or sleeping

      bullying others

You might experience a huge range of emotions if you discover your child is being bullied. Here is some advice to support:

Talk to them about bullying and cyberbullying.  Explain what bullying is, ask if anything like that has happened to them.  Keep calm and listen carefully to what they say.  Reassure about the next steps - they may feel scared, embarrassed or ashamed.  Continue to check in and offer to listen.

Let them know who to ask for help.  This could be a trusted adult, a teacher or a family member.

Speak to the school.  In the first instance, this would be the Pupil Support Teacher/House Head.  This will be recorded by the school, investigated and reviewed in line with our Anti-bullying action plan, detailed on page 10.  You could encourage your child to complete an online anti-bullying self-referral form: Anti Bullying Self-Referral Form

Help them relax and take time out.  Bullying can reduce confidence.  Provide opportunities to make them feel good and build confidence.  Reassure at all points.

Report bullying on social media and online gaming.  Don't stop them from using their phone or social media - this could feel like a punishment and the child has not done anything wrong.  Support to block and report. 

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Report bullying videos shared online.  Get in contact with the site the video is shared on as soon as possible. If a report is made and depending on the sites terms and conditions, they may be able to remove this.

Our diagram (Appendix 2) is part of our anti-bullying pledge and identifies the roles, responsibilities and procedures where bullying behaviour is observed or reported, with an Alleged Bullying Incident Form (Appendices 3 & 4) completed.

From transition in S1, pupils, parents/carers are made aware of our House structure and the roles and responsibilities of the House Head, Pupil Support Teacher, Pupil Support Manager and Well-being Office staff. This ensures our school community knows who to speak to if they are concerned about bullying behaviour.

It is important that pupils, parents/carers and staff are confident in reporting any bullying concerns that they may have.  Equally, we encourage a "Speak up and Report" approach where we challenge any bullying behaviour observed or are aware of, and report this.

Once a bullying allegation has been reported, investigated monitored and reviewed, it must be:

      Recorded on Alleged Bullying Incident Form pages 1 & 2 (appendices 3 & 4)

      Recorded on Seemis

      Filed in Bullying log